Is There Value in Marriage in Today’s Society?


…Many people have come to believe that marriage has lost its meaning. With today’s high rates of divorces, with almost 50% (47% to be exact) of marriages ending in divorce, people feel the need to disregard its value and the sanctity of the institution of marriage.

Sure we say things like “Years ago marriage meant something, today that no longer holds true.” In all actuality, marriage means what it did over 50 years ago. It is a sacred union between two individuals vowing to become one. The issue is that people forget that they have become one, and today we like to run from struggles. We allow what society holds as a standard (lack thereof) or what we’ve become accustomed to overshadow what is really valuable. People don’t just disregard marriage, but in today’s world people are ready to give up on anything when things become tough. We see a struggle, and our first reaction is to run instead of jumping over the hurdle and seeing the glory at the end of a tough run.

I don’t need to see successful married couples to want to have a successful long-lasting marriage one day. Sure, it sets a great standard to follow, but if that standard hasn’t been set, why not set it yourself? I know plenty of people who didn’t graduate from high school, but that never stopped me from receiving my diploma. I know many people who never went to college, but it didn’t stop me from going to college myself. Many people didn’t graduate college, and that didn’t discourage me from achieving that goal; I graduated. The thing is, we can make a million excuses of why we don’t believe in marriage, why we don’t want to do this or that, but in reality the issue is the individual, not society. Excuses are merely made when you just don’t want to do something. No need to say you don’t believe in marriage because you don’t know anyone who’s been married or you know married couples with issues. Fact is we all have issues, married or single; the difference is how we handle those situations. What do you hold to be valuable in your life?

Marriage is a commitment. Marriage is sacred. Marriage is hard work. Marriage is the ability to overcome any obstacle whether it is financial or emotional, and recognizing that with your faith you will be able to conquer anything working against your marriage. You make a vow to become unified with another person…As a unified body; there is no time to just focus on “I”! Sure we all need some me time, but how does your “I” affect the “we”? Marriages/Relationships work because you want them to work…You think them through, you work it out. When you’re ready to give up, all is lost and you aren’t fighting to work through your situation. That’s when it meets its demise. That’s when people begin to become selfish…That’s when we spread hurt.

But hey…This is just Mira talking? I’m not married, so there isn’t much I can say! haha

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7 Responses to “Is There Value in Marriage in Today’s Society?”

  1. Miranda Says:

    sing it child!

  2. I’m glad you took a step up to say it is the individual not society and why not be an example is you have none. With this kind of thinking I am sure you will have a successful marriage in the future. I have only been married a couple of months but I always had the same type of attitude as you and so does my husband. One thing I’ve learned from relationships in general is you HAVE to be with someone who thinks the same way as you do about commitment. YOU may be able to handle a relationship but that doesn’t mean just anyone else can. You don’t want to get stuck with someone who makes the relationship one-sided because they don’t put in the same effort as you. I was determined to find this in a person and eventually I did. This is my first marriage and I intend on it being my only marriage for the rest of my life. Good luck to you!

  3. You can certainly see your expertise in the work you write.

    The world hopes for more passionate writers like you who are
    not afraid to say how they believe. Always follow your heart.

  4. I am writing a research paper on divorce in the church, and find it interesting your personal views on why the divorce numbers are so high. Thanks for your insight.

  5. Hey if I need to cite it how would I do that? I’m really impressed by this.

  6. In a modern frame of thought , your view is personal and emphasizes on individuals, the problem of divorce will not be solved until the inequality on wealth and justice get a good answer! I enjoyed reading your view but I did not understand where you got 47%divorce rate!

  7. Yes it is the individual, but do you really believe society has no influence over people? There are good people out there, who are not as aware or strong minded or what ever you want to call it, and not necessarily their fault, who don’t even recognize the effect society and culture has on them. Since all they hear and see are negative comments or views from other people arround them, they justify giving up because someone told them it was ok, but maybe later they hear the other side of the story and regret that decision. Everyones actions and examples affect someone else. We get arrogant with our views and start trying to convince people we are right, but we don’t know how we affect others. Maybe they should teach kids to recognize when they are being influenced in a bad way by society or culture so it has less effect on some. I think it works like addicts who can’t be helped until they admit to themselves they have a problem. Of course not everyone can be helped. But other than that, i aggree completeky with you and applaud your view. : ) hope I made sense.

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